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Self-harm, or self-injury, describes a wide range of things people do to hurt themselves on purpose. It’s usually a way of trying to cope with difficult feelings, or a difficult situation that someone is going through. It can be very hard for friends and family to know about, or see, someone you care about self-harming.
People self-harm in lots of different ways, and self-harm can affect people of any age. Some people who self-harm also have suicidal thoughts, but there are a lot of people who self-harm who don’t have these thoughts. However, someone is hurting themselves, self-harm is a sign of distress and should be taken seriously. Some argue that risky behaviours like drinking too much alcohol, taking drugs and having unprotected sex are also a form of self-harming.
It can be hard to recognise the signs of self-harm in someone you care about, and most people who self-harm try to hide what they’re doing. It’s important to trust your instincts if you’re worried that something’s wrong. Signs to look out for can include:
- covering up, for example by wearing long sleeves a lot of the time, especially in summer
- unexplained bruises, cuts, burns or bite marks
- blood stains on clothes, or finding tissues with blood on
- becoming withdrawn, and spending a lot of time alone
- feeling down, low self-esteem or blaming themselves for things
- outbursts of anger, or risky behaviour like drinking too much alcohol or using drugs.
This video from MIND explores what self harm is:
Here are five myths about self harm from BBC Three:
What can I do to help?
It can be difficult to know what to do or how to react if you find out that someone you care about is self-harming. Here are some things that can really help:
- Stay calm and encourage the person you care about to talk to you about what’s going on for them. Remember they might feel ashamed of their self-harm and find it difficult to talk about.
- Try not to ask your friend/family member lots of questions all at once.
- Keep an eye on your friend/family member, but avoid ‘policing’ them, because this can increase their risk of self-harming. Avoid acting or communicating in a way that threatens to take control away from your loved one.
- Consider whether your friend/family member might be self-harming in ways or areas that you can’t see
- Remember that self-harm is a coping mechanism, it is a symptom of an underlying problem.
- Encourage your friend/family member to find things they can do to cope instead of self-harming, but don’t force someone to stop self-harming if they’re not ready to yet. It might be the only way that they have found so far to cope with what they’re going through and stay alive
- Support your friend/family member to find professional help. Check out the Get Help Now links on this page
- Make sure you have ways of looking after yourself while you are supporting your friend/family member.
Norfolk and Suffolk NHS Foundation Trust, TIPP skills:
Get Help Now!
Here are a list of services that can help. The icons below tell you the type of support available.
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Local mental health teams
Community Mental Health Teams
Nottingham and Nottinghamshire Talking Therapies
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The Mix
Crisis Line
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CALM
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